Hi, first of all please accept my apologies for any ignorance I may have towards Crohns, I'm very new to this!
A couple of months ago the guy I was seeing started making excuses not to see me, eventually he admitted that he had Crohns and could feel a flare coming. He explained that when it's really bad it's a it embarrassing and he doesn't really want me to see him like that. I of course completely understood this and have tried to be really supportive. I've done a lot of research to try and understand Crohns so that I can support him as best I can and although it's a little frustrating at times when plans are cancelled or I can't see him for days I've tried so hard to be patient. He really started to open up and talk more about what he was going through and it really felt like we were getting a lot closer. Unfortunately I've had my own personal issues recently which have really knocked me and even with everything he's dealing with he's been so supportive.
But then last weekend all of a sudden he started ignoring my calls and when I finally spoke to him he said he doesn't want a relationship and was really nasty about it. It was honestly like talking to a different person. We've only spoken briefly since and it ended with him getting angry for no reason.
A couple of days before this he's been out on steroids as the medication he was on wasn't working so I'm just wondering if this personality change is a side effect of the steroids? Is this normal?
Do people with Crohns tend to push people away when things get too hard for them?
Obviously I'm aware that this could have nothing to do with Crohns and he could've just changed his mind but it just seems so strange for things to have changed so much from one day to the next.
If he does eventually open up again and explain that this was all because of the Crohns / steroids I will of course accept that, however, I can't just accept him being so nasty every time things are hard. If anybody's ever dealt with this kind of situation before any advice would be very much appreciated!
A couple of months ago the guy I was seeing started making excuses not to see me, eventually he admitted that he had Crohns and could feel a flare coming. He explained that when it's really bad it's a it embarrassing and he doesn't really want me to see him like that. I of course completely understood this and have tried to be really supportive. I've done a lot of research to try and understand Crohns so that I can support him as best I can and although it's a little frustrating at times when plans are cancelled or I can't see him for days I've tried so hard to be patient. He really started to open up and talk more about what he was going through and it really felt like we were getting a lot closer. Unfortunately I've had my own personal issues recently which have really knocked me and even with everything he's dealing with he's been so supportive.
But then last weekend all of a sudden he started ignoring my calls and when I finally spoke to him he said he doesn't want a relationship and was really nasty about it. It was honestly like talking to a different person. We've only spoken briefly since and it ended with him getting angry for no reason.
A couple of days before this he's been out on steroids as the medication he was on wasn't working so I'm just wondering if this personality change is a side effect of the steroids? Is this normal?
Do people with Crohns tend to push people away when things get too hard for them?
Obviously I'm aware that this could have nothing to do with Crohns and he could've just changed his mind but it just seems so strange for things to have changed so much from one day to the next.
If he does eventually open up again and explain that this was all because of the Crohns / steroids I will of course accept that, however, I can't just accept him being so nasty every time things are hard. If anybody's ever dealt with this kind of situation before any advice would be very much appreciated!