Another update... New love interest - how to tell abt temporary ileostomy?
I'm new here (female). I've recently met someone that I really like in the dating world. He seems to really like me too - we've only gone out on 2 dates but a 3rd one coming up. I'm in the middle of rectal/vaginal fistula repair and have a temporary ileostomy. Probably have another interim surgery coming up as there still seems to be a fistula that is present. I cannot be reconnected until this has healed.
I have yet to tell my date that I've had this health issue... I don't feel that it defines me at all. I expect to be reconnected this summer (if all heals) and hopefully will be able to resume what I call "my normal life". (Had colon removed in '89; have an internal pouch. Only colitis diagnosis - not crohn's as far as they can tell). Anyway, this is my 3rd ileostomy, my last was for fistula repair too and held for nearly 10 years.
How can I tell him and make it a "non-big deal". Any of you out there that have successfully made this admission and came out of it OK - meaning, they weren't scared away? I feel like he has a right to know, especially if we are going to keep dating. I thought I should for sure tell him by the 4th date...
I welcome advice. Thank you.
I'm new here (female). I've recently met someone that I really like in the dating world. He seems to really like me too - we've only gone out on 2 dates but a 3rd one coming up. I'm in the middle of rectal/vaginal fistula repair and have a temporary ileostomy. Probably have another interim surgery coming up as there still seems to be a fistula that is present. I cannot be reconnected until this has healed.
I have yet to tell my date that I've had this health issue... I don't feel that it defines me at all. I expect to be reconnected this summer (if all heals) and hopefully will be able to resume what I call "my normal life". (Had colon removed in '89; have an internal pouch. Only colitis diagnosis - not crohn's as far as they can tell). Anyway, this is my 3rd ileostomy, my last was for fistula repair too and held for nearly 10 years.
How can I tell him and make it a "non-big deal". Any of you out there that have successfully made this admission and came out of it OK - meaning, they weren't scared away? I feel like he has a right to know, especially if we are going to keep dating. I thought I should for sure tell him by the 4th date...
I welcome advice. Thank you.
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