Yes, we have done that. My wife and I are rare these days because both of us have a strong sense of commitment. She will remain with me and me with her come hell or high water. I think sometimes people think that if you are in love you are happy, but I am not sure that is always the case. My crohns is just one of those unfair deals. I have shared my concerns with friends, family and counselors, but deep down I still have this fear that she would be happier without me. I dont think anything can be done about that. I just try to remind myself that i cant expect healthy people to really know what it's like, even the ones closest to me.
To be honest, I dont think this is a marital issue between my wife and I. If I had known Crohn's would hit me this hard i am not sure i would have proposed to anyone. That's not to say i would want to be a hermit, but I feel guilty that my disease has also limited my wife's life. Best i can do is try to make it up to her when I can and make her feel appreciated, but it doesn't ease my guilt. It's especially hard because when we married i was the picture of health.
I am sorry to derail. Thank you for the advice.