hello forum,
My 38 year old sister (Carol) just passed away in her sleep on 12-21-2013 it was unexpected and out of the blue.
Carol was diagnosed with Crohn's disease when she was around 20 years old. The doctors gave her prednisone and it did not work so they had to remove her lower intestine and she got a colostomy bag. When she came home from the doctor after the sugery i took care of her. She had a big cut on her stomach attatched with staples.
She looked ok for the first day but she started to look really pale and feel cold so i took her to the ER and they found out that the stitching they did to her intestine failed because her tissue was too soft from the prednisone. So they had to remove all her organs and cleaned her toxin filled cavity out. She would have died at 21 years old if it wasnt for me.
My sister Carol talked alot all the time and i dont really talk that much so i distanced myself from her, but i always answered her calls and listened to what she had to say, and helped her when I could and she always helped me when I asked. I just didnt visit her that much.
During the holidays her and her daughter would always stay over at our house for about a week. Carol would always get on my nerves, because of her hoarding habits and the fact that the doctors always gave her tons of pain pills for the pain and she would just sleep all the time and drink lots of 2 liter bottles of Pepsi because the pain meds had her craving sugar all the time.
I finally confronted her about her about taking too much pain meds and what effect it was having on her daughter. She listened to me and started changing.
She started to fix herself and was doing alot better (even though she talked alot).
Fast forward to this past year. My sister Carol lived in public housing (for the past 15 years or so) and was on SSI and so was her daughter who was diagnosed with Autism Carol could not have a job because of her illness.
Since about 2-2013 she was getting worse her immune system wasn't working right. For the past 15 years or so Carol would always have to go to the ER because her colostomy bag got clogged and would back up or her joints were swollen ect.., so I just thought her doctor visits were normal, but these visits since 2-2013 were for dizzyness and headaches and falling over and blacking out.
The doctor visits increased 10x fold the past 2-3 months she was in the ER at least once a week. Once again i was concerned for her and her daughter but i thought it was the normal behavior for her to go to the doctor all the time. I thought they would find out whats wrong and fix it (like normal)
I offered help to watch over her daughter but my mom said she could help her so i didnt need to.
Well, now I know the increase in headaches, blacking out and dizzy spells were her last days here, she passed away in her sleep and her 18 year old daughter found her in the fetal position on her bedroom floor on 12-21-13. and were are still waiting for the cause of death from the coroner.
The last time i spoke with Carol was on the phone about a week ago and she was sad and crying because she thought my mom took money from her daughter's bank account. I was telling her no, mom would never do that, so please give it some time and maybe something else happened. it turned out she forgot they used the money on something else.
That was the last thing she said to me, I know now I should have said I LOVE YOU CAROL.
Carol loved coming over for the holidays and this year she stayed home because she was too sick and i gave my mom a take home plate of food to give to her because i know she loved coming over for the holidays, i hope she liked the food.
Now I am helping her 18 year old daughter and my mom and my other sister go threw her personal items, and Carol was a hoarder so its taking some time.
I am crying now about my sister, I wish so much happened differently, I wish all the doctors would have seen this coming but they either didnt see it or Carol didnt say anything to me.
Thats my story, there is so much more about Carol, its just too much good to say about her, I would be here forever
thanks for reading
My 38 year old sister (Carol) just passed away in her sleep on 12-21-2013 it was unexpected and out of the blue.
Carol was diagnosed with Crohn's disease when she was around 20 years old. The doctors gave her prednisone and it did not work so they had to remove her lower intestine and she got a colostomy bag. When she came home from the doctor after the sugery i took care of her. She had a big cut on her stomach attatched with staples.
She looked ok for the first day but she started to look really pale and feel cold so i took her to the ER and they found out that the stitching they did to her intestine failed because her tissue was too soft from the prednisone. So they had to remove all her organs and cleaned her toxin filled cavity out. She would have died at 21 years old if it wasnt for me.
My sister Carol talked alot all the time and i dont really talk that much so i distanced myself from her, but i always answered her calls and listened to what she had to say, and helped her when I could and she always helped me when I asked. I just didnt visit her that much.
During the holidays her and her daughter would always stay over at our house for about a week. Carol would always get on my nerves, because of her hoarding habits and the fact that the doctors always gave her tons of pain pills for the pain and she would just sleep all the time and drink lots of 2 liter bottles of Pepsi because the pain meds had her craving sugar all the time.
I finally confronted her about her about taking too much pain meds and what effect it was having on her daughter. She listened to me and started changing.
She started to fix herself and was doing alot better (even though she talked alot).
Fast forward to this past year. My sister Carol lived in public housing (for the past 15 years or so) and was on SSI and so was her daughter who was diagnosed with Autism Carol could not have a job because of her illness.
Since about 2-2013 she was getting worse her immune system wasn't working right. For the past 15 years or so Carol would always have to go to the ER because her colostomy bag got clogged and would back up or her joints were swollen ect.., so I just thought her doctor visits were normal, but these visits since 2-2013 were for dizzyness and headaches and falling over and blacking out.
The doctor visits increased 10x fold the past 2-3 months she was in the ER at least once a week. Once again i was concerned for her and her daughter but i thought it was the normal behavior for her to go to the doctor all the time. I thought they would find out whats wrong and fix it (like normal)
I offered help to watch over her daughter but my mom said she could help her so i didnt need to.
Well, now I know the increase in headaches, blacking out and dizzy spells were her last days here, she passed away in her sleep and her 18 year old daughter found her in the fetal position on her bedroom floor on 12-21-13. and were are still waiting for the cause of death from the coroner.
The last time i spoke with Carol was on the phone about a week ago and she was sad and crying because she thought my mom took money from her daughter's bank account. I was telling her no, mom would never do that, so please give it some time and maybe something else happened. it turned out she forgot they used the money on something else.
That was the last thing she said to me, I know now I should have said I LOVE YOU CAROL.
Carol loved coming over for the holidays and this year she stayed home because she was too sick and i gave my mom a take home plate of food to give to her because i know she loved coming over for the holidays, i hope she liked the food.
Now I am helping her 18 year old daughter and my mom and my other sister go threw her personal items, and Carol was a hoarder so its taking some time.
I am crying now about my sister, I wish so much happened differently, I wish all the doctors would have seen this coming but they either didnt see it or Carol didnt say anything to me.
Thats my story, there is so much more about Carol, its just too much good to say about her, I would be here forever
thanks for reading