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12-07-2015, 12:40 AM   #1
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Just a rant - contains strong language

Has anyone else experienced some shit that just annoys the crap out of you.
My neighbor has been just rediculosly obnoxious lately, in many ways. But i will just focus on 1 for mow, or at least try.
They went to hawaii for the week, and sent me or so I thought, a text msg. Happened to be a grp msg, which is absofuckinglutely obnoxious, as everyone who responds to his text, gets sent to me as well. This is the reason I click the "send grp msgs as individual msgs" when I do send grp txts. So in 5 days I have received over 200 fucking txts, and sonce they are in hawaii, they are 3 hrs behind, so as I am sleeping for work the next day there were txts waking me up. That was the first day they were gone. When that happened I just moved him and all the people associated to the fucking spam folder and the only reason I knew how many txts I had gotten was cuz I just checked my spam folder... People are fucking obnoxious.
He also recently pissed me off trying to give me advice about my crohns, and when I would mention or tell him certain things he would make comments like "drs dont know shit" and "that doesn't make sense if you're not losing weight". He is just very opinionated, controlling and has no control over the put your fucking foot in your mouth button in his brain, actually it doesn't exist for him. I realze more and more, that there are just very few people if any that I should be discussing my condition with, it's just hard for me cuz I am very much an open book. But he went and just googled crohn's and printed me out a bunch of shit that I have already read yrs ago, and knew exactly where he had gotten it from, and I know it is out of caring, but it's just over the top. Unfortunately it has totally changed my opinion of him and no longer have any interest in chatting with him. Gotta pick him up from the airport tomorrow night too. Yippee...the prick. Sorry, just been wanting to get that off my chest.
12-07-2015, 08:23 AM   #2
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Oh no, make the most of the next few neighbor free hours!

You can't choose your family and you can't choose your neighbours!

Try and focus on the good points. Like you say, he is trying to help. Or say you don't want to discuss your Crohns until another time. And I think it is good of you to pick him up from the airport, that is a very neighbourly thing to do.
12-07-2015, 09:00 AM   #3
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Ya it is specially when he is paying me to do so... maybe he knows he is a prick. His wife was super embarrassed the way he was acting on the way too the airport. It all n good, just shouldn't have to be like this. Talk about self absorbed...
12-07-2015, 09:34 AM   #4
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Has anyone else experienced some shit that just annoys the crap out of you.
My neighbor has been just rediculosly obnoxious lately, in many ways. But i will just focus on 1 for mow, or at least try.
They went to hawaii for the week, and sent me or so I thought, a text msg. Happened to be a grp msg, which is absofuckinglutely obnoxious, as everyone who responds to his text, gets sent to me as well. This is the reason I click the "send grp msgs as individual msgs" when I do send grp txts. So in 5 days I have received over 200 fucking txts, and sonce they are in hawaii, they are 3 hrs behind, so as I am sleeping for work the next day there were txts waking me up. That was the first day they were gone. When that happened I just moved him and all the people associated to the fucking spam folder and the only reason I knew how many txts I had gotten was cuz I just checked my spam folder... People are fucking obnoxious.
He also recently pissed me off trying to give me advice about my crohns, and when I would mention or tell him certain things he would make comments like "drs dont know shit" and "that doesn't make sense if you're not losing weight". He is just very opinionated, controlling and has no control over the put your fucking foot in your mouth button in his brain, actually it doesn't exist for him. I realze more and more, that there are just very few people if any that I should be discussing my condition with, it's just hard for me cuz I am very much an open book. But he went and just googled crohn's and printed me out a bunch of shit that I have already read yrs ago, and knew exactly where he had gotten it from, and I know it is out of caring, but it's just over the top. Unfortunately it has totally changed my opinion of him and no longer have any interest in chatting with him. Gotta pick him up from the airport tomorrow night too. Yippee...the prick. Sorry, just been wanting to get that off my chest.
I hope you feel better getting that of your chest BB,It made me smile anyway,so thanks.
12-09-2015, 11:30 PM   #5
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Np, it was not too bad, really helps getting paid... but soon as i pulled away from the curb, i see the sign for "AIRPIRT EXIT", which i had to cut across all the lanes, and he says "are you going back into the airport?" I just wanna say like fuck man do u think im some kind of fucking retard? But his wife, again embarrassed tells him not to worry, that they are in the hands of a professional.... which helps ease the frustration. Just unreal how much of a control freak he is... just couldnt wait to get home and be done with it.
12-10-2015, 10:32 AM   #6
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Calm down or you'll do yourself a mischief
12-16-2015, 12:43 AM   #7
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Lol living in LA, is not an easy task getting to the airport, I used to live in Thousand Oaks.
If its any consolation my mom STILL tells me if my eating habits were better, I would feel better. I feel like eating a salad at her house and letting her stay up with me, ALL. NIGHT. LONG!

Feel better soon!

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12-16-2015, 01:23 AM   #8
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Im like 10 mins from t.o. haha. Nice area. I live in woodland hills. Ya, theres alot that makes living in l.a. difficult, but dating, whether your male or female, is tough, everyones so fucking shallow and self serving.
12-16-2015, 11:05 PM   #9
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I agree! Love the area and loved being able to go to the beach all the time!
Not so much in Austin, Tx.

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12-16-2015, 11:19 PM   #10
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I hate tx. Sorry, no offense. But at least you have 6th st if thats ur thing. Bars galore.... austin is a cool city kinda though. Spent wks in austin, w wks in dallas, and wks in houston, for work, shooting chevy commercials.
12-17-2015, 01:03 AM   #11
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No offense taken. I hated Seattle and I know some people love it.
I don't drink so 6th is not a big draw for me. Although as the DD for the
night I have been known to be the one to end the night with a tattoo.

There is a lot to do here, I am much happier here though I miss my Dr in T.O.
You can go to the beach though and sit in the sand just watching life roll with the tide.
Boy, I miss that the most.

Hope things get better soon.

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12-17-2015, 03:18 PM   #12
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Ya, ur telling me. I used to surf pretty religiously, and I havent been to the beach in like 2 yrs, and im only maybe 11miles from the beach, topanga and ventura if you know where that is... But i not only love the beach but i love the drive to the beach as i am a car guy as well and loved driving my cars through the canyons. I have many many memories of sunrises and mostly sunsets at the beach, surfing until dark, watching amazing sunsets while sitting in the water waiting for waves to come in between sets. Just sitting in the water reflecting on this or that, just enjoying the moment of peacefulness. Memories with my best friend. I think that makes it hard for me too. We did everything together, especially surfed and it has been extremely tough without him. Even all the hundreds of rides through the canyon to the beach and home that we shared. Weird how you take the most simple things for granted. Especially having to endure my crohns without him in my life anymore. I never have been a big drinker, never was into bars or clubs so I never got into that scene, ESPECIALLY as the DD. I just didn't see the point, as it was no pfun for me to go out and see a bunch of drunks and think, god what ana asshole I thought I must have been when I was drunk. And i didnt see the point in paying rediculous amounts of money to get drunk when i could spend 1 6th of the amount to get drunk outside of one of those places... and i just felt like the girls are shallow, just not my scene.
12-17-2015, 10:29 PM   #13
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LOL my husband knows not to get drunk, or he can call a cab. I don't do drunk, your right its not fun! I loved driving through Hidden Valley during Christmas. Never was a water person.
Bad experience at Zuma beach in HS. Saw someone get bitten by a lrg shark while out in the water. Enough of that!! Try going to the beach again and soak in all the peace you remember, I love to stop at Starbucks for a tea early in the morning and go sit in the sand an just chill by myself. No idea when I can di that again, my parents left San Diego, so no more San Diego vacations! But I bet you will start to feel a little peace there!!

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12-17-2015, 11:06 PM   #14
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Ya, specially in the last 5 yrs or so, theres been a lot of great white sightings, south of zuma, theres been some that were breaching at sunset bay in santa monica, and then when i googled to fi d the pics for that, i jst saw that there were a bunch hangin out in hu tington beach, oc area. Pretty crazy, but i never had an issue, and i actually bodyboard, so i were fins, and look way more lime a seal to those bad boys. When i would surf alone, there were some, how should i say, more eerie situations, that I think were more anxiety manifested than actual reaskns to be worried. By the way, not sure if ur familiar with big dume, at the end of free zuma where u can pay to park, there is that point, and actually if u drive all the way up to the top to the lookout spot where u can see paradise cove from above, anyway, the buoy just off the coast there, it relresents where the dropoff to the submarine canyon is, and its been known to be a great white breeding area and migratory passage in that marine canyon.
Check this out, from huntington beach, these guys are nuts.
http://laist.com/2015/06/28/video_pa...t_white_sh.php
I appreciate the advice, but man, its hard to even get out of bed for anything at all. Im so tired or in pain all the time. Often times, as morbid as this sounds, I think if i were to end my life, i would go down to the beach and just watch one last beautiful sunset, if I were ever to choose that road... sorry i know thats depressing, but i do think about it from time to time.
Hope you are able to make it back to the beach sometime. I would say corpus christy or somewhere like that, but i been there too, and it is nowhere near the same. Its more like florida lol, with remnant cities destroyed by hurricanes.
12-18-2015, 02:09 AM   #15
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I don't think I would go to a beach in Texas, to spoiled with Calif and South Carolina!

I know how lonely and depressing this disease can be. I don't know how old you are but, I was Dx at 28, I am now 52. I can remember being taken to the hospital in the middle of the night as young as 5 and no one knew what was going on. So I had my second baby by the time I was diagnosed. My mom and husband still have a hard time "getting it". Which for my husband is no excise. He has seen the pain and how sick I get. He still gets pissy if I don't
meet his expectations as far as cleaning and laundry on my days off.

I work retail- its a hard physical job. I am on my feet up to 8, sometimes 9 hours a day. I can promise one thing, I will not fold the three loads of laundry left on the bed at the end of the day! Its a lonely disease, very few understand, so there is always that little bit of judgment from people and its hard to deal with. I am very lucky that my three kids are very good about it. I have always used to be 100% present with them and never miss important
occasions or make them miss important events.

Have you ever been part of a support group? When I lived in T.O., I started to go to a Synagogue ( I am not Jewish but, thats where they held them) for CD support grp. Unfortunately we moved to Seattle and they didn't have anything like that. I also had one of the best Drs there so that was also hard to leave.

Remember if you feel overwhelmed reach out here, alot of people know how your feeling and
are good to talk to- even if its a hard conversation!


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12-18-2015, 03:07 AM   #16
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Hi love hugs n support to u all.💕 oh boy is this a hard one to cope with eh!!!. Even when im well i feel shity. So very tired all the time. My brain just seems to want to shut off most of the time. Everything is too much hassle to deal with. I understand what your saying n my heart goes out to u. Hoping for better times for us all. 💞
12-18-2015, 03:42 AM   #17
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Ya, i hear ya mandy.
Im 36 lauren, be 37 on new years eve. Makes this time of year ESPECIALLY difficult for me, with all the holidays, not being able yo eat all the things i love as i was and still have foods i absolutely love. Love cooking and trying all kinds of well reviewed things etc. Ive always had issues although i was only diagnosed in 2012, thinking back, i def had symptoms especially of perianal disease as early as 13 yrs old, so 1990ish? If not even earlier, i always would leave the dinner table with stomach issues and be right in the bathroom. Always felt with stressful situations and get stomach aches etc... not having my best bud around only compiunds to my depression and loneliness, which in turn just adds stress. Plus all the other thigs as well going on rigjt now that are super stressful. Not knowing how to deal with looking for the right pain management doc, feeling like being really honest and up front with my docs sometimes seems like it has worked against me, just in this particular situation. Plus the recent surgery and feeling so much better only for a short lived timeframe. Just all this not nowing what is going to happen, how tests will come back looking, mri's, and knowing there is def something wrong with the fear of results showing no reason i should be in this much pain. I feel like I have been labeled a drug seeker and/or abuser. I dont feel the pain mngment docs trust me, and the way they talk to and trat me leads me to believe they are just plaqueting me by seeing me. I just feel trapped. And at times i start to feel overwhelmed and consumed by stress and anxiety. There are so many things I still feel I am capable of achieving, but without the proper help I suppose, and so many variables beig a factor, especially one of which being finances, it begins to feel unattainable, which in turn just helps manifest the feeling of hopelessness. Altough, i do feel at times patience can allow for some of these "wishes" to come true.
I also wear my heart on my sleeve, and i am very open, honest and unashamed of duscussing what "helps" my condition and/or symptoms currently, and I think a lot of my so called "good" friends and some neighbors are judgemental and rather than speak to me about my disease/condition/symptoms they make assumptions or judgements and all this is done with little or no knowledge of what this disease is really like, especially when you have a severe case of it that almost leaves someone feeling debilitated. Fuckinng bedridfen 95% of the time... and all this stuff i mentioned doesnt helpaking it easy to force urself out of bed. Just adds to the depression... inability to trust others, specially those u would have thought were trustworthy, close friends. Just miss my friend, my brother... i appreciate your kind words and concern. Wishing you well, hugs and good times for the holiday and new year. Hey, by the way, who was your dr in t.o.? Ight look at going to see someoe different. I really just meed a pain management specialist to understand whats going on and to help me until something can get my disease under control, and not make me feel like shit cause i might need stronger amounts of meds than the think I should need. If i can get into remission, amd be more comfortable both while eating and having BMs, i would gladly be fonw with the meds. Bit at the moment, i feel lime my pain docs just trwat me like a red flag patient. Anyway, thanks again for sharing and have a great holiday and new year. Cyber hugs
12-18-2015, 03:22 PM   #18
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Hi lauren. Ye it seems everything is set up to stress u out which of course is the last thing we need.. im so sorry for all your going thro hun. I understand you must be gutted about your friend it makes it harder to cope when u lose out on a close friendship.
Also your brother hun. It must be bloody awful. My heart goes out to you love.
I so wish i could make us all better so we can live life to the full again . Nothing would make me happier.
My gastro doc is jimmy limdi at north manchester general in uk. He is the clinical lead in crohns disease. Have a google if u like.
Always here to listen n give love n support. Best wishes to u n hope u get some releif quickly. Hope u have a happy holiday n the new year brings better things your way. 💋💞
12-18-2015, 11:20 PM   #19
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I was seeing Dr Gregory Johnson, he is next door to Los Robles Hosp. Really good Dr. Also good job scoping. Which as you know can be important for us!

I worked for him before my DX, then after I switched my care to him. He is very well thought of in that area. A second opinion for course of treatment is always a good idea.

I hope you have happy Holidays and let me know how your feeling and if you decide to see Dr Johnson. Let him know Lauren DeCarlo referred you if you decide to go.

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12-18-2015, 11:25 PM   #20
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Mandy,


I think you got mine and BigBosses stories inter mixed but, thank you for your concern and kind words. We have all gone through scary lonely times before and know how incredibly
hard it can be. Finding the acceptance and understanding is so important to drag us through the rough patches.


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12-18-2015, 11:47 PM   #21
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Yes, i thought the same tots, but it was hard to tell, seeing as the way it was worded could have been recieved either way.
However it was meant mandy, i thank you for your kind words. Wishing you well and hoping the new year has healthy and prosperous future ahead of you.
12-19-2015, 01:10 AM   #22
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Oh dear crohns brain in effect 😃lol. Wishing u both the best 💕💕
12-19-2015, 01:21 AM   #23
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Its no worries mandy, no biggie.
Dont aweat the small stuff.
12-19-2015, 01:44 AM   #24
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