Dating Question

So i have this nurse at my doctors office that is really cute i have no idea if she is single or anything, but only time i see her is when she is calling paitents back. She is not my doctors nurse but i would like to get to know her. I just need some advice on how to do this. would giving her a note when she calls someone back saying something like "I know your busy but would like to get to know you, Call me" be a little psycho or what? i am really bad about the opening when talk to someone or flirting. Once i have gotten past the introduction i am fine. Please help me with some advice.

Making this post anonymously, i'm a little shy and embarrassed.

[dingbat]

you need to get over the shyness at least a little bit, to be able to approach her without trembling lol. i would suggest just asking her to her face, not in a note, if she'd be up for meeting you for a coffee one day.. make it sound casual.. and also act casually when she answers, whether it's yes or no... but i hope it's yes

let us know!

[Kuwabara]

I don't think the note would be a psycho thing to do, but face to face is probably better. I think some of the females on here will give you greater insights into the correct approach!

Whatever you do though brother just don't deny yourself happyness based on embarassment or worrying of whatever other people think.

The quote I always try and remeber in my life is one Churchill used to say and Bobby Kennedy used to repeat

"Courage is rightly esteemed the first of human qualities, because it is the quality that guarantees all others"

Without courage a man is nothing, but if a man is courageous he will have the courage to be strong,valiant,honourable,noble and daring and will ultimatley lead a greater life.

Good luck!

[katiesue1506]

I would try to converse with her first. That way she doesn't think you are just talking to her because you like the way she looks. I know it sounds like she's busy all the time, but maybe you could catch her on check-out one day... you know, strike up a casual convo. Then I'd wait until next time and once she can remember who you are, I'd ask her out. But I play it safe so maybe I'm not the best judge lol.

[imisspopcorn]

Practice on other girls....This what my husband said he would do??? You might see a cute girl at the grocery store etc...chat her up. Get comfortable flirting with random girls. Also, the more girls you ask out, the more likely one will say yes to coffee etc....

[katiesue1506]

Actually.. I had a psych prof say that dating is just a statistics game. The successful people are the ones who take more shots.

[imisspopcorn]

Originally Posted by katiesue1506

Actually.. I had a psych prof say that dating is just a statistics game. The successful people are the ones who take more shots.

That is how my hubby looked at it...One of them is bound to say yes. Don't take it personal if you get a rejection, their reasons for saying no probably have nothing to do with you as a person.

[farm]

My area of expertise!! Here are some of my best pick-up lines to break the ice!

Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?
Shall we talk or continue flirting from a distance?
Is there an airport nearby or is that just my heart taking off?
Oh those are shoulder blades, I thought they were wings.
You know what's finer than a frogs hair? You!
You know what's hotter than a volcano? You!
You have a little something in your hair, oh that's Angel dust.
Someone farted, let's get out of here!
Didn't we go to different schools together?
Are your legs tired? You've been running through my mind all day.
I lost my phone number, can I have yours?
Is your name Gillette? ...because you're the best a man can get.
Kiss me if I'm wrong, but isn't your name Amanda?
Is there a Rainbow, because you're the treasure I've been searching for.

I have more if ya need em

[katiesue1506]

No no no... no pickup lines... pickup lines are so 1985!

[farm]

Yes yes yes, they work I promise! If you use them as a JOKE to break the ice, they will work. If you use them seriously, well...

[imisspopcorn]

Well, you definitely would make them smile....You've got to have a lot of charm to pull those off. Are you wearing camo when you do these lines? So they can't see you blush???

[farm]

I usually don't blush but cheesy pick-up lines will work as long as you use them as a joke. Once she smiles or laughs, you're in like Fen!

[forum contributor]

Originally Posted by farm

Someone farted, let's get out of here!

I vote for this one!!

[Kuwabara]

Farm,I think all those lines are ridicously cheesy and I'd doubt they'd work for me personally- mainly because I've got a face like a sack of dented bells BUT I think..

'Shall we talk or continue flirting from a distance?'

I think that's a good line - it suggests a no nonsense cut the bullshit type mentality that I think would work. Its a negation of Mamihlapinatapai
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mamihlapinatapai

[jed]

i'd go the quiet smile when she looks at you.
try and be waiting somewhere in the room where she walks past, a nice smile, and a hi.

see if its returned.

if it is, try continue to conversation. but start small.

fun day? you look busy etc etc.

meeting people who arent in your social circle where you can try to easily get one on one time is never easy for most, so a polite direct approach is probably your best bet.

and dont try rush it. get a feel for the situation before popping any big questions, if youra shy person then you may feel uncomftable if it doesnt turn out to be any more.

good luck



(omg, not one silly line from me, and i'm exploding with them!!!!!!!!)

[My Butt Hurts]

I'm thinking that they might have an office rule about dating patients. She might have to say no even if she doesn't want to .
If you don't think that's the case, I would try to find out from another nurse or receptionist is she is dating anyone currently. Then like Jed said, just some small converation to get started. I would definitley stay away from the note passing.
Good luck!

[Mark33180]

Hey MBH just wondering... When are you going to upgrade from the back seat to the fronmt seat...

[kello82]

i agree with striking up some casual conversation! chat with her as she is directing you back to the exam room! while youre waiting in the waiting room wait until she has a few quiet moments and go up to the window to ask her some questions that have to do with business you know? just think up some general things even if you dont need to ask it. pretend that you want to make sure that they have you cell phone number in your file, or ask her if she would check and see what the date was of you last visit so you can fill out your paperwork, ya know?? just dumb things like that. it give you a chance to have a little bit of conversation
from there start to flirt a little bit and see if she responds positively. when you call the office, ask for her by name. when she picks up tell her that anyone couldve answered your question, its just that youre her favorite
sweet things like that make ANY girl feel good! whether she ends up being into you or not, she will appreciate the attention

[My Butt Hurts]

Originally Posted by Mark33180

Hey MBH just wondering... When are you going to upgrade from the back seat to the front seat...

Wha?!? Are you just showing how Farm's pick up lines (don't) work?

The back seat IS the upgrade (wink)
SQUEAL!™

[kello82]

hahahha you trademarked your squeal!!! lmao
well then i TM my 59843895373827894's.

[Mark33180]

Originally Posted by kello82

hahahha you trademarked your squeal!!! lmao
well then i TM my 59843895373827894's.

how can you trademark numbers??? i'm confused.

[shazamataz]

The best/worst line I ever heard was: 'Do you wanna go halvers on a baby?'

I'd recommend NOT using that one!

I hope the others have given you some useful tips here - let us know if you get any results!

[jed]

my best effort was at a fashion show, i really liked a particualr lady in it, so when she came down the catwalk, i got on it at the end like a doggie and waggled my tail, looked up at her and woofed like a puppy.

i was promptly removed from the venue by security.

i met her again later, she loved it, but she also had a partner. i gave it a try.


edit - this is not the post fen suggests you trying, a man woofing on all fours in a doctors office may have his pred taken away from him - DONT DO IT!

[fenway1971]

Advice from the Caped Crusader...

Do what Jed said.

Don't send her a note asking her out. Women are attracted to confidence - approach her, but do so gently.

Good luck.

[fenway1971]

LMAO. I posted that before I saw your last post, Jed.

DO NOT GET ON ALL FOURS!!! LOL.

[Jeff D.]

Jed I may have to use that one day.lol

[jed]

ha, i'll have to put a warning notice in my second one fen!

Jeff, i did that before camera phones were widely available, if you choose to do it, i expect footage

[Guest1]

Jed, that was the best story, LOL!

[Jeff D.]

lol will do, will do

I think if I get the chance to do it I will have to find a way to make a movie out of it.lol

[fenway1971]

LMAO @ Jed.

Jeff - yeah. We expect video. BTW, Lucali's this weeked. I'll report back to ya.