Thanks Jacqui, I know I won't be sad but I still feel kind of bad that I am not at all sad. She definitely has lived live a long life and it's true that I won't miss her at all. Honestly I barely even know her. She's lived in Florida for my entire life so I've only met her in person a handful of times. But she's so manipulative, and the manipulation got through even from thousands of miles away. Things like, for my birthday one year she'd send me $50 but for my brother's birthday she'd only send him $5. So we thought maybe she was mad at my brother or something? But that didn't make sense because he was only like 6 years old and a grandmothery-type person cannot/should not be mad for any reason at a child. And then the next year, we each got like $10. So was she mad at both of us that year or just feeling stingy or...? Every year was like that. She sent me a large amount of money for my 16th birthday with a note saying, "You're only 16 once!" So we figured my brother would get similar treatment, but nope. I think he got $5 or $10 or maybe even nothing from her when he turned 16. Not sure if she was trying to turn us against each other or just messing with our heads or what. (She's in Mensa and never had any dementia issues so it's not like she mentally couldn't remember from one year to the next how much money she usually gives each kid. And I know, I should be thankful to have received any money from her, but it's still manipulative to be so flighty with what amounts you give to siblings.)
And this one time, she guilt-tripped my mom into visiting her. She had married my mom's father who died shortly afterwards so she had inherited a lot of my mom's family's heirlooms, including their silver cutlery. She told my mom that if my mom went down to Florida to visit her, she'd give her the cutlery. Then when my mom showed up to visit as planned, she didn't want to give my mom the cutlery! She made up some flimsy excuse about how she "lost" it and then just flat out said that she didn't want to give my mom the cutlery after all. Then, when my mom was leaving, she suddenly magically "found" the silver and just wanted to show my mom but still didn't want to give it to her. Finally, very begrudgingly she gave it to my mom literally as she was walking out the door. But my mom was headed for the airport and didn't have time to try to ship it home, so she had to get the cutlery through airport security (fortunately this was in the 90's so security was not as tight back then and after some questioning they let her through with it). There's been so much stuff like that. Or if my mom calls her on the phone, and she doesn't want to talk to my mom, she'll say "I have an emergency here so I'll have to call you back" then never does - but then my mom will worry about what the emergency is, so she'll keep trying to call back but no answer, and there really never was any emergency. So much stuff like that and I won't miss that at all.
So yeah, I'm not really sad in the least. But my cousins and my aunt, for some reason they love her and call her "grandma" (I'm like, seriously, that lady is many things but she is NOT our grandma!). I guess they either don't see the manipulative side of her or they block it out or something. So I know they will be grieving. My aunt even rushed to fly down to Florida today to be by her side. I don't really understand how/why they care for her so much, but at any rate I care for them and it's sad that they'll be sad. That's about all the emotion I can muster though.