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Matthews story

Matthew is my son who is now 12 years old. He was diagnosed with crohn's just over a week ago after a colonoscopy and endoscopy. He has ulcers in his oesophagus, stomach, ileum, and colon with fistulas near the anus.

Matt originally became I'll in January when he woke up one morning with a sore ankle. During the day this spread to his other ankle then his hips and became so severe by the next morning that he could not support his own weight so could not stand on walk. He also could not bear the skin on his thighs to be touched at all as it caused him absolute agony. He also had abdominal pain, but at this stage experienced constipation. He was admitted to hospital and spent a month there coming out in a wheelchair.

During his hospital stay they did all sorts of tests: blood tests, ultrasound, ct scan, nuclear scan, bone marrow, lumbar puncture etc but were unable to discover what was wrong. At times it was suggested he was not really as bad as he made out, it was all in his head, he must be having problems at school and that perhaps a hot bath would help him. :mad2:

After being discharged from hospital he used a wheelchair and then as the pain decreased he moved on to using crutches. I should add that by this stage he was not on any medication as nothing helped, including a five day trial of steroids.

As his joint pain slowly eased his abdominal pain increased and he started to experience loose stools, blood and diarrhoea. He started having to go to the toilet 5 or 6 times a day. We were having regular reviews with his consultant but nothing was being diagnosed despite his CRP and ESR levels continuing to fluctuate as they had from his initial admission to hospital, and him showing signs of anaemia.

By this stage I had, like any other mum, being frantically researching his symptoms on the net. I emailed his consultant asking if we could consider crohn's as a possibility and asking for tests. His co sultanate said that as he did not have mouth ulcers he didn't fit the profile. I kept asking for the tests and after a few more visits he agreed to send him for a small bowel series of barium stays because he was losing weight, very pale and "looked sick". ( ya think??!!). The small bowel series showed nothing but I had heard them saying it wasn't moving through as quickly as they would like. So again I pushed for a referral, and this time he agreed to "rule it out".

We saw the paediatric GI who immediately said he wanted to do an endoscopy and colonoscopy "due to his typical symptoms"!. This was done within a few weeks. On the day of the colonoscopy the GI consultant admitted him to hospital to start immediate treatment because of what he found, and confirmed it was crohn's.

Matthew started on a modulen liquid diet the following day which he has to follow for 8 weeks. We are a week into it and he is tolerating it well.

I am all over the place. One minute I think ok, we now know what it is, and it can be controlled and treated. Then I scare myself silly by reading stories of others in the net and think life as we knew it is over! I am worried about him returning to school in two weeks whilst still on the diet. When he returned to school on crutches he was given a card to allow him to leave class five minutes early to avoid being bumped in the corridor. He started to manage without the crutches , which he hated, as other kids teased him and on one occasion tried to pull them from under him. Then however although we explained he was still in pain and could only move slowly some teachers wouldn't let him out early even though his form teacher said he should still use the card. I am concerned that he will not be allowed to,leave to use the toilet no matter what we say or they agree to. I will be telling him that if a teacher says no, he should go anyway and we will sort it out later.

I am scared for his future, I am worried for what this disease will do to him over time and I am grieving for the life I feel he has lost. Sorry if that sounds dramatic but it is how I feel.
 

Dexky

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I am concerned that he will not be allowed to,leave to use the toilet no matter what we say or they agree to. I will be telling him that if a teacher says no, he should go anyway and we will sort it out later.

I am scared for his future, I am worried for what this disease will do to him over time and I am grieving for the life I feel he has lost. Sorry if that sounds dramatic but it is how I feel.
Welcome Mum!! I told my son the same thing but we've had no trouble with any of his teachers so far. If we ever do...I'll be sticking a boot up somebody's....!!

I think misdiagnosing crohns is one of the most common things on the topic. Far too often it's the last thing they consider! I very much hope you all find a treatment option that gives Matthew his childhood back! It is better to know but be careful what you read out there! There are many positive stories too! You just have to look a little harder:). Good luck and glad you found us!
 
You did a great job by doing your own research and advocating with his specialists. Don't stop that now you have a diagnosis, it's key!

Mouth ulcers, as you probably know, only occur some of the time with Crohn's. I've had Crohn's 28 years and never got them until my late 20s (about 7-8 years ago) and even now I only get them twice or three times per year.

Crohn's is quite manageable for most patients it's just a matter of finding the right therapy and then being compliant with it. With a pre-teen/teen you'll have to audit his meds to make sure he's taking them every single day. Compliance/memory for pills is a big issue with my daughter.

Like your son, cruelty at school has been an issue for my daughter. She has many friends, but she was in a wrist brace for a month after being deliberately tripped by an older boy who thought she was getting too much attention from teachers for being ill.

Good luck, and keep being a great advocate for your son as you are already doing. His chances of a good outcome are astronomically higher already because you're involved and informed.
 

Tesscorm

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HI Mumof4

My son was diagnosed this past May, he's 17. He was also put on a liquid diet for six weeks (through an NG tube overnight). The six weeks was tough at times with no food but he did get through it. He was allowed clear liquids (broth, apple juice, etc.), jello and freezies - this certainly helped him to have 'meals'.


When he returned to school, we had a meeting with his teachers, guidance and principal and explained his illness and needs. As he had missed quite a bit of school, missed lessons and assignments and exams were looming, the teachers worked out some extra help and made some adjustments to his curriculum. They also allowed him to keep freezies in the teacher's lounge so that he could have some for 'lunch' with friends.

He responded very well to the treatment and is now eating all foods and continuing on a maintenance program with the formula. He has gained all of his weight back plus some!

There are lots of knowledgeable, supportive members here; feel free to ask questions. I remember how overwhelming it felt to want to help my son and feel so limited because I just didn't know what we were dealing with!

I hope the treatment works well for your son quickly!
 

Astra

Moderator
Hiya Mumof4
and welcome

So sorry your little 'un is suffering like this.
Have you had a talk with the head and made all staff aware? Your boy should be put on a risk assessment and reasonable adjustments made for him. This is important, and for insurance purposes too.
Crohn's is covered under the Disability Discrimination Act, now known as The Equality Act 2010.
For a teacher to not allow access to a toilet is breaking this Law!
The Crohn's and Colitis UK have excellent downloads for School and Children with IBD.
Good luck with the new school year
lotsa luv
Joan xxx
 
Thank you so much for your replies guys. I am so glad I found this forum, it is comforting to speak to people who really understand crohn's. I am sure I will have many more questions as time goes on and at least now I know where to ask them!
 
HI Mumof4, welcome to the forum, i have had crohn's for 21 years now and been in remmission for 15 years and just recently flared up out of the blue so now i am on predisone and other medications and just liquids for a while to clear up the flare and it seems to be working i hope matthew gets the best treatment he needs and go talk to the heads of the school and tell them what is going on in the class room and raise bloody hell if you have too and by the time you leave make damn sure you mean business. you do what's in your power to help your child to get the help he needs and that is medical as well. I see you are doing a great job as it is keep it up and things will turn out fine. Life is not over because you have crohn's i know you have to deal with it for a lifetime but, it's diffientally not over. best wishes.:welcome:

scott
 

DustyKat

Super Moderator
Hi Mum and :welcome:

I'm so sorry to hear about Matthew hun...:(...but you have found a fab place for support and info!

Life won't quite be the same again BUT you do settle into the new normal and over time will find yourself thinking a little less about each day. It's still the last thing I think of every night and the my first thought of the morning but when it is so new to you it's hard not to be overwhelmed by it all...:hug:

As Joan has said, go to Crohns and Colitis in the UK and look at the resources they have there regarding students and schools. I took brochures to the school and a letter from the doctor and also arranged a meeting with all of my kids teachers, the Principal, Deputy Principal, school counsellor, etc and basically laid it on the line. I told them how Crohns affected their lives, I wrote a report and gave them a copy, what I expected from the school and what I expected from them as their teachers. Also go to your education department website and look at the section regarding students and disabilities, know your rights and tell the school you know them.

It will get better Mum. My daughter came within a whisker of dying from this when she was 14, she was undiagnosed at the time, but has now been in remission for 5 years and lives far away from home. She attends university, has a part time job and lives life to the full! She has had to make changes to the way she lives her life due to the effects of extensive surgery but I think I can honestly say to you that if she didn't have Crohns I truly don't think she would be achieving the way she is. It has made more determined to live life to the full, more determined not to waste a moment and more passionate about the things she cares about in her life. My son has also been recently diagnosed and after a number of months of setback after setback he is now in remission and going better than I can remember in I don't know how long.

Stick around Mum 'cause we would love to have you here and get to know you better!

Dusty. xxx
 
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