So my boyfriends had a stoma fitted, he's on a regular ward now and will most probably be discharged permanently next week.
For the last few days I've been feeling useless, and almost like I'm being pushed out by some of his family.
Yesterday there was a minor set back, and due to everything that's happened lately I got really upset so I waited outside the room until I'd calmed down. This happened twice. When I'd been back in the room for about an hour, I was told by his mum that in his dads opinion I needed to "toughen up." Fair enough, it upset me a bit but I understood where he was coming from so I decided to make a bit of a joke of it by pretending to be offended. Instead of laughing along with me to make light of an otherwise upsetting moment for me, he nodded. But again, I thought "ok, fair enough."
Today has been a long day, Joe had barely spoke to me in the 7 hours I'd been sat with him, none stop. When I got a bit tearful over this I was told by him that I need to "toughen up" because he can't deal with me anymore.
I do understand that this is immensely hard for him, and I appreciate that he won't be able to be there for me as much as before, not for a long while. But at the same time I don't think it's very fair for them to make me feel that I'm useless to Joe for getting upset by him being in pain, or making me feel unwanted.
I'm starting to think that maybe I should just keep all my thoughts and feelings to myself instead of bothering people with them.
Am I overreacting?
For the last few days I've been feeling useless, and almost like I'm being pushed out by some of his family.
Yesterday there was a minor set back, and due to everything that's happened lately I got really upset so I waited outside the room until I'd calmed down. This happened twice. When I'd been back in the room for about an hour, I was told by his mum that in his dads opinion I needed to "toughen up." Fair enough, it upset me a bit but I understood where he was coming from so I decided to make a bit of a joke of it by pretending to be offended. Instead of laughing along with me to make light of an otherwise upsetting moment for me, he nodded. But again, I thought "ok, fair enough."
Today has been a long day, Joe had barely spoke to me in the 7 hours I'd been sat with him, none stop. When I got a bit tearful over this I was told by him that I need to "toughen up" because he can't deal with me anymore.
I do understand that this is immensely hard for him, and I appreciate that he won't be able to be there for me as much as before, not for a long while. But at the same time I don't think it's very fair for them to make me feel that I'm useless to Joe for getting upset by him being in pain, or making me feel unwanted.
I'm starting to think that maybe I should just keep all my thoughts and feelings to myself instead of bothering people with them.
Am I overreacting?
