Hi, after over a year of dealing with pain and symptoms that caused my fiance to lose job after job because he couldn't go to work for the pain, and after months of calling him a wimp, and other horrible things (I thought he was just using the cramping as an excuse, and as a women I was angered), we finally received news he has crohns. I wasn't there when the doctor announced this news and it was delivered as an "oh by the way" type statement. For the past year I have been the main breadwinner as he just can't hold a job due to the pain he experiences every time somebody hires him and I am terrified that I will forever have to be "the man" now that he has learned of his diagnosis. I don't know how to handle the upcoming changes and I'm scared that the life we know will be over. I don't know what to do and I am just hoping that talking to a few others who have been here can help me see some sort of bright side to this news.... I am hoping that I can get suggestions on how to help him, as well as how to deal with my own fears, I don't know where else to turn, please help me have the strength to help him through this.