nogutsnoglory
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Before all hell broke loose this summer and I was in my healthier state of being unhealthy I was going out with a really amazing guy. The problem is in talking to him he made clear that he finds the idea of an ostomy absolutely horrendous. I don't know if he meant he couldn't accept living with an ostomy himself or that he wouldn't even entertain being with someone with an ostomy. I wasn't sure I'd need one at that point but when I found out I did I stopped going out with him.
We had great chemistry and so much in common but I'm scared to get hurt or feel anymore disgusting about myself than I already do with my scars and stoma. I am getting better now, the hope for a reversal may be a few months away and I have more energy. Truth be told I can't fully commit myself to someone because dating requires a lot and I'm still weak and busy with doctors. I really want to find someone though, I really miss being in love.
Do I chance it and be honest about what's going on or do I wait till I'm better and have a reversal which could be months away. I risk him finding someone and losing him. I know there are other fish in the sea too but dating is so difficult with IBD and an ostomy. Maybe I should experiment with dating others first and seeing their reaction so I won't be as hurt by someone that I really like. Sigh.
We had great chemistry and so much in common but I'm scared to get hurt or feel anymore disgusting about myself than I already do with my scars and stoma. I am getting better now, the hope for a reversal may be a few months away and I have more energy. Truth be told I can't fully commit myself to someone because dating requires a lot and I'm still weak and busy with doctors. I really want to find someone though, I really miss being in love.
Do I chance it and be honest about what's going on or do I wait till I'm better and have a reversal which could be months away. I risk him finding someone and losing him. I know there are other fish in the sea too but dating is so difficult with IBD and an ostomy. Maybe I should experiment with dating others first and seeing their reaction so I won't be as hurt by someone that I really like. Sigh.