Hello. I am new to the Crohn's Forum. Will try to keep my story short. I'm not a good writer and I'm honestly a bit intimidated here. But, I'm desperate! So here goes.
I have a son who is 19. When he was younger the courts appointed my wife and I guardians. He came from a terribly abusive home life and had severe emotional and psychological problems due to the abuse. But, he was a good boy who just needed a stable and safe home. He found that with us and our two natural born daughters. With a lot of help from good counselors, good neighbors, and good friends, he made tremendous progress. Over the years we bonded and we eventually adopted him. All seemed well and we were so pleased with how well he was doing in school, activities, etc. Then, during his Junior year in high school, he begin to struggle with severe cramping, diarrhea, loss of appetite, strange rashes appearing on his legs and trunk, weight loss, and severe fatigue.
We took him to the doctor, to GI specialists, to Childrens Hospital, and test after test after test was run. Amazingly, he had no physical evidence of damage in his bowels. But, we learned that his biological mother has severe Crohns disease. A $1,000 blood test was performed and it indicated that he had the genetic marker for Crohns disease.
Be that as it may, the doctors did not want to give him that diagnosis prematurely. So, his diagnosis at this point is IBS. But, given his biological mother has Crohns and all of his symptoms are Crohns like, I fear and believe in my heart that it is Crohns disease.
His fatigue was so severe that he couldn't keep up attendance sufficiently during his senior year. We had to withdraw him and he did his school work on line and graduated that way.
The GI specialist we took him too, and Childrens Hospital, all told us that there must be a psychological component since they couldn't find evidence of ulcerations and etc. in his bowels. So, we took him to more counseling and he underwent Trauma therapy to further help him with his horrific childhood. But, his Crohn's like "symptoms" did not abate. In my heart, I do not believe this is psychological.
Nothing the doctors prescribed helped. They will not prescribe anything specific for Crohns because they have not given him that diagnosis. So he suffers away in this broad diagnosis of IBS and/or that it's "psychological".
Since the Doctors haven't helped, I've turned to Holistic alternatives: probiotics, various supplements, just about everything I've read about that might help and seemed safe, I've tried. I do think the probiotics helped some. But, the last two months or so he has taken another turn for the worse.
Cramping. Diarrhea. Severe SEVERE fatigue. Rashes. No appetite. Weight loss. It's awful.
On a personal, emotional note, I've watched a boy come into our lives who was shattered. He was depressed, afraid, anxious, and unhappy. I watched that boy work through all that and become happy, adjusted, and full of hope for the future. The day we adopted him was a wonderful day for all of us. He had a family for real that would always be there. We had a son that we loved just as if he were born to us. I was so proud of his hard work and determination to overcome the past. The future seemed so bright for him.
Then this. It's like it has robbed him of everything he had to look forward too.
I'm not complaining. I'm heart broken and frustrated. I want to help him. But I don't know what to do. Seems like everything I've tried is a dead end.
I think I need to find a new Doctor. But truthfully, the GI Specialist we went to was excellent, as was Children's Hospital.
At this point I don't know where to turn, except to God and to others who might shed some light on the matter.
I'm feeling pretty lost right now. I feel like I've failed this boy. I've failed my son.
So, there's my story.
Thanks for reading it.
I have a son who is 19. When he was younger the courts appointed my wife and I guardians. He came from a terribly abusive home life and had severe emotional and psychological problems due to the abuse. But, he was a good boy who just needed a stable and safe home. He found that with us and our two natural born daughters. With a lot of help from good counselors, good neighbors, and good friends, he made tremendous progress. Over the years we bonded and we eventually adopted him. All seemed well and we were so pleased with how well he was doing in school, activities, etc. Then, during his Junior year in high school, he begin to struggle with severe cramping, diarrhea, loss of appetite, strange rashes appearing on his legs and trunk, weight loss, and severe fatigue.
We took him to the doctor, to GI specialists, to Childrens Hospital, and test after test after test was run. Amazingly, he had no physical evidence of damage in his bowels. But, we learned that his biological mother has severe Crohns disease. A $1,000 blood test was performed and it indicated that he had the genetic marker for Crohns disease.
Be that as it may, the doctors did not want to give him that diagnosis prematurely. So, his diagnosis at this point is IBS. But, given his biological mother has Crohns and all of his symptoms are Crohns like, I fear and believe in my heart that it is Crohns disease.
His fatigue was so severe that he couldn't keep up attendance sufficiently during his senior year. We had to withdraw him and he did his school work on line and graduated that way.
The GI specialist we took him too, and Childrens Hospital, all told us that there must be a psychological component since they couldn't find evidence of ulcerations and etc. in his bowels. So, we took him to more counseling and he underwent Trauma therapy to further help him with his horrific childhood. But, his Crohn's like "symptoms" did not abate. In my heart, I do not believe this is psychological.
Nothing the doctors prescribed helped. They will not prescribe anything specific for Crohns because they have not given him that diagnosis. So he suffers away in this broad diagnosis of IBS and/or that it's "psychological".
Since the Doctors haven't helped, I've turned to Holistic alternatives: probiotics, various supplements, just about everything I've read about that might help and seemed safe, I've tried. I do think the probiotics helped some. But, the last two months or so he has taken another turn for the worse.
Cramping. Diarrhea. Severe SEVERE fatigue. Rashes. No appetite. Weight loss. It's awful.
On a personal, emotional note, I've watched a boy come into our lives who was shattered. He was depressed, afraid, anxious, and unhappy. I watched that boy work through all that and become happy, adjusted, and full of hope for the future. The day we adopted him was a wonderful day for all of us. He had a family for real that would always be there. We had a son that we loved just as if he were born to us. I was so proud of his hard work and determination to overcome the past. The future seemed so bright for him.
Then this. It's like it has robbed him of everything he had to look forward too.
I'm not complaining. I'm heart broken and frustrated. I want to help him. But I don't know what to do. Seems like everything I've tried is a dead end.
I think I need to find a new Doctor. But truthfully, the GI Specialist we went to was excellent, as was Children's Hospital.
At this point I don't know where to turn, except to God and to others who might shed some light on the matter.
I'm feeling pretty lost right now. I feel like I've failed this boy. I've failed my son.
So, there's my story.
Thanks for reading it.