Hi,
I'm hoping to raid your brains for some tricks on managing my husband!
To cut a long story short he was diagnosed with crohns about 7 yrs ago. Ups and downs along the way.
I love him to bits but he's not the man I met five years ago.
He's on a lot of meds. He doesn't like being the focus of attention so it's hard to get him to the doctors/dentists/blood tests/vets (!!) at the best of times. He also doesn't like discussing these reviews. I now go with him so we can get the info I need to help him but there's still so much I don't know.
He's on Imuran. Predesolene. Pentasa. And smokes a bit of weed for thereputic excuses!
He's often angry paranoid and irrational. It's taken me a long time and a lot of antidepressants to realise he has problems. For a while I thought I was being overly sensitive by getting upset over the accusations of using his tooth brush, cheating, putting the Hoover purposefully in his way, washing his clothes tooo often! I need to lessen these side effects for him/us. Any ideas??
Is it the weed or meds?
Would anything help release the excess med induced testosterone? More exercise?
I also worry about his diet. we know he needs more calcium and fat than most. We know lager chilli and gluten make it worse. I know it's not caused by diet but is there anything I can introduce to help?
His mum died from a stroke in her forties and his dad has had two in his fifties. We obviously need to keep an eye on this but paired with crohns should we do anything differently?
We're not sure how the meds affect Our child bearing potential and have therefore always said they're not essential in our relationship. They're not. But I want to make sure we're not basing our decisions on mis information. Would his meds affect the health of our baby?
I also would like clarification on hereditary chances. We've been told it's not hereditary but husbands grandmother has it. Only sibling and only 2 cousins have colitis. Would our children be more susceptible?
I'm also burying my head in the sand for a bit with my own tummy troubles. I was diagnosed with ibs at 14 which has gradually got worse to the point where my symptoms out shine husbands. I've been tested for allergies crohns and colitis all negative. But I've been told my antibody count is 7 x what it was three years ago. I feel like if this is just bad ibs I'm wasting nhs money pursuing this further. I struggle to get perspective on this as I can't remember how normal feels. I'm guessing the other alternative is cancer. It's been mentioned by Dr as both grandmothers have colon cancer but also put to one side as I'm young. Can high antibodies be ibs or cancer? If only ibs then I'm happy to put up with it quietly. I was put on mebeverine until results came through. It has had not effect. I've also previously tried fibro gel and other anti spasmodics. No effect. I phoned for results so haven't spoken to Dr yet. Obviously I need to man up and get this sorted but in the meantime with husbandit crohns plus my ibs are we just creating a child with a higher chance of problems? I do not want to put a child through the pain that either of us suffer.
I know I'm requesting a lot of info but pls feel free to contribute snippets of advice. It would be so appreciated. Xx
I'm hoping to raid your brains for some tricks on managing my husband!
To cut a long story short he was diagnosed with crohns about 7 yrs ago. Ups and downs along the way.
I love him to bits but he's not the man I met five years ago.
He's on a lot of meds. He doesn't like being the focus of attention so it's hard to get him to the doctors/dentists/blood tests/vets (!!) at the best of times. He also doesn't like discussing these reviews. I now go with him so we can get the info I need to help him but there's still so much I don't know.
He's on Imuran. Predesolene. Pentasa. And smokes a bit of weed for thereputic excuses!
He's often angry paranoid and irrational. It's taken me a long time and a lot of antidepressants to realise he has problems. For a while I thought I was being overly sensitive by getting upset over the accusations of using his tooth brush, cheating, putting the Hoover purposefully in his way, washing his clothes tooo often! I need to lessen these side effects for him/us. Any ideas??
Is it the weed or meds?
Would anything help release the excess med induced testosterone? More exercise?
I also worry about his diet. we know he needs more calcium and fat than most. We know lager chilli and gluten make it worse. I know it's not caused by diet but is there anything I can introduce to help?
His mum died from a stroke in her forties and his dad has had two in his fifties. We obviously need to keep an eye on this but paired with crohns should we do anything differently?
We're not sure how the meds affect Our child bearing potential and have therefore always said they're not essential in our relationship. They're not. But I want to make sure we're not basing our decisions on mis information. Would his meds affect the health of our baby?
I also would like clarification on hereditary chances. We've been told it's not hereditary but husbands grandmother has it. Only sibling and only 2 cousins have colitis. Would our children be more susceptible?
I'm also burying my head in the sand for a bit with my own tummy troubles. I was diagnosed with ibs at 14 which has gradually got worse to the point where my symptoms out shine husbands. I've been tested for allergies crohns and colitis all negative. But I've been told my antibody count is 7 x what it was three years ago. I feel like if this is just bad ibs I'm wasting nhs money pursuing this further. I struggle to get perspective on this as I can't remember how normal feels. I'm guessing the other alternative is cancer. It's been mentioned by Dr as both grandmothers have colon cancer but also put to one side as I'm young. Can high antibodies be ibs or cancer? If only ibs then I'm happy to put up with it quietly. I was put on mebeverine until results came through. It has had not effect. I've also previously tried fibro gel and other anti spasmodics. No effect. I phoned for results so haven't spoken to Dr yet. Obviously I need to man up and get this sorted but in the meantime with husbandit crohns plus my ibs are we just creating a child with a higher chance of problems? I do not want to put a child through the pain that either of us suffer.
I know I'm requesting a lot of info but pls feel free to contribute snippets of advice. It would be so appreciated. Xx