Hi everyone, my name is Sarah. I have ulcerative colitis and have had it for nearly 5 years. Ive tried all the meds available and they haven't worked so I've decided enough and am having surgery in about 6 weeks time. I was all up for having 2 surgeries which would end up with j pouch. Having spoke to a surgeon i am now having the 3 step surgery so that my body has time to 'get well' and be at the best health before the j pouch surgeries. Now my dilemma is i was due to get married this August but cancelled it as i thought surgeries would clash with it and moved it to next year so i thought all surgeries would be out the way and id be used to a j pouch. Now after hearing about what lies ahead with a j pouch and how it takes a year to fully get used to it and to get to the 'norm' will be with it I'm debating whether it would be best to get married whilst i have an ileostomy bag. In my head I'm thinking this would be no rushing to toilet during my big day or potentially no accidents and id just have to change/empty my bag. J pouch sounds quite scary when i read about pouchitis/accidents/urgencies. Any advice greatly received, sarah xxx