My husband has seriously ill for years (paralyzed etc). They've made him 10-20 surgical operations during last 6 years. I between the hospital periods I nursed him at home. Despite all this we do love each other very much and we also had a wonderful sex life which we both did enjoy. BUT THEN....... 10 months ago he got a colostomy. I am helping him to take care of it and it does not bother me at all. BUT what comes to sex, the stoma makes me feel bad and panic. I can hug him and kiss him but I can not make love with him. Even his stoma is covered by t-shirt, I can not see it, but I can feel it against my skin I feel ill. I am so sad, because I love him so much and I do not want to hurt his feelings. We are talking a lot and almost all possible topics, but this one I can not tell him, it would be crushing him. I do not know what to do, I have used already all possible excuses. Anyone else had this kind of problems in your relationships?